Being alone is VERY important. No?
& I don’t just mean the whole not being around actual humans thing – but also the phones, computers, etc.
It’s tough to get REAL alone time. Can you relate? I feel like you can. I can’t even see you reading this right now but I just feel like I can see you relating. LOL.
Even when we are alone, we know what our friends/family/etc. are doing through social media and our phones ( crazy how that works if you really think about it ) right?
I don’t remember the last time I didn’t actually know what someone that I’m close with was doing..
I get SO many tips and tricks from people on social media platforms.
But it’s definitely really really really nice to kind of, delete it for a night? ( Don’t panic – I mean deleting it without actually deleting it. )
One summer, before I blogged, I actually deleted my Instagram/snapchat for about a month or two? I forget.
Anyway, it was REFRESHING.
I really felt like I learned more about myself because I actually took the time to learn. I wasn’t constantly staring at my phone or comparing myself to others or seeing who was watching my shit.
And I know, I know.. it’s hard these days to really put the phone down and kind of just take time for yourself.
I totally get it.
BECAUSE I WASN’T ACTUALLY HAVING ALONE TIME, EVEN THOUGH I WAS ALONE.
How is that possible?
OH believe me – it’s possible. I would sit there on my phone and see what everyone else was doing and get in my own head.
I get in my own head really easily and I’m a busy-bee so I like to always be doing something. It relieves my anxiety.
( I think anxiety is a top word on this blog.. )
But I’ve learned to really let this go and clear my mind being alone, considering how important it is.
It definitely took some working on and getting used to, but now I look forward to it.
Even if you just take one solid night, that’s it.
& if you live with someone – it’s fine. Just distance yourself for a bit.
No people. No phones. Nothing.
I try to make being completely alone a thing at least once a month.
Planning ahead will make it more exciting, you get to look forward to it. Like looking forward to a date.. with yourself. & if you do a lot of work from your phone, you can know you won’t be able to that night.
Nothing coming in, nothing going out. No distractions.
BE ALONE, REMEMBER?
It’s relaxing and gives me about 30 minutes to lay there completely lazy and mind-less until it’s done. Right now I like to do my blueberry probiotic face mask or glam glow mud mask – they are my current obsessions. ( I’ll talk masks at a later date, so many good ones. )
EYE MASK: I’m loving klorane smoothing and relaxing patches for a night alone. Anything to get my puffiness down. Plus, they have chamomile in them – so they really fit the whole ‘relaxing night’ theme.
TIP: refrigerate the patches!
I honestly like to do this a few times a week.
I’m a total sucker for baths, I feel like they reduce anxiety a TON and relax the body.
I’m also horrible at resting and sleeping – my mind is constantly going if you haven’t figured that out by now. So taking baths has really helped me unwind.
I think of it like yoga – a place to just, calm down.
Totally therapeutic. And what’s better than relaxing while detoxing? Nothing. I know.
» I add epsom salt ( this one especially because it has added ginger & clay for a real detoxing effect ) I do 2 cups of the epsom salt.
+ those oils will help to relax you, relieve stress, and help with sleep
+ the epsom salt with clay will hep to relax the muscles and brain, destress, and eliminate toxins
I’ll get a snack that I don’t normally eat, or one that I really really love. Depends on the mood.
If you want ice cream, go for it. If you want a spinach smoothie, do you.
For instance: my last date night alone, I completely indulged on my favorite popcorn bowl.
You can also go with a tea – great for relaxing. I’m doing the turmeric tea like crazy lately.
This is anxiety-realeser 101. It’s changed my entire view on being alone. My recommendation right now: Mark Manson: The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck. Great alone time read to get your mind moving off of anxiety, and you’ll learn real life stuff.
OK. Are you calling me crazy yet?
They sound so simple, which they are, but they are HUGE for the mind.
Those are the main things I do every single time I have a night alone. And I get SO excited for it now.
I just simply found things that work well with reducing my anxiety and calming me down and made it a stay in alone date night.
If you pick the right things to calm you down, you’ll look forward to the alone time.
My advice for you: make sure you’re actually alone. I can’t repeat this enough. I had no idea what I was doing wrong until I deleted my social medias that summer. It totally dawned on me then.
I wasn’t letting my mind.. relax.
& there is something HUGE that I took out of this process.
I thought I hated something that I actually love because I was.. ( I don’t want to say doing it wrong ) but doing it off. Not doing it the best way for me, if you will.
I just had to find the right way and the right things to make alone time good for me.
Anything else you guys are doing? Always love hearing, feel free to chime in